
Tips for When Guests Arrive to the Party Early
Late to the party isn’t everyone’s M.O.
How to keep them busy while finishing your list
Funny how it works out that you may feel like there's never enough hours in the day, so the thought of arriving early somewhere is typically not a concern to you (just us?) It may not be your norm, but sometimes guests show up to the party before you're ready. Rather than tense up and wonder why the heck they couldn't wait to arrive (because they were so eager to partake in your incredible hosting skills!), take a breath. When this happens, it's important to have a few things set aside for them to do. Here are some tips for keeping your cool with those early guests, since you might as well make them useful, too.

1. Taskmaster
Have at least two tasks set aside for them to do. This could include:
- Removing a cover from an hors d'oeuvres platter
- Opening a bottle of wine (or more...)
- Pulling platters out of fridge
- Arranging cold items on crudite board

2. Water girl (or boy)
A classic task, but effective! Ask your early guest to fill the water glasses on the table. It’s a small, simple task that requires no supervision, and it’ll save you time standing by the sink. Just have a pitcher ready and let them take care of it!
3. Candle-lighter, party edition
Arm your guest with matches or a lighter and send them on a hunt for candles that need lighting. Don’t forget the tea lights, bathroom, and entryway candles. It’s a small touch that adds to the ambiance, and it keeps them engaged while you finish setting up.

4. Extra set of eyes
Have your early guest give the table a review. Make sure every place setting has a fork, knife, cocktail and water glass. If you want to be extra prepared, have your 'extras' place settings prepped so said guest can easily grab and set when they do find a missing piece.
5. Hall pass for the bathroom
Sometimes simple things like checking your main bathroom slips your mind amongst hosting. Of course, we don't recommend keeping this one on your list for early guests...you'll want to ensure the bathroom is clean prior to guest arrival. An extra check by your early guest is the ticket here. Soap? Toilet paper? Extra roll? Clean towel? Check.
6. Chill Mode
Would you rather have your guests out of your hair while you compile your thoughts? In this case, have photo albums set out, or the latest catalogs or magazines of Madewell, Serena & Lily, Elle Decor, or Vogue, or a shelf of pretty recipe books to catch their eye. Or of course, a cute little partytrick postcard to point guests back to your all-star party fairy godmother. Anything that can keep early guests busy browsing, while you wrap up your finishing touches.

With these simple tips, you’ll be ready for any early arrivals without missing a beat. So take a deep breath—they’re likely just excited to see you! Give them a task, finish up your preparations, and get ready to host an unforgettable gathering.
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